Tuesday, October 21, 2008

A river full of thoughts!

It's been one year and 6 months since the love of my life has been in India. In just 4 days, he is moving back.... From when we made the plan for him to move back, I have known that it would not be easy. But today as I write this, so many things run through my mind!
He is leaving behind his country, the people he grew up with, his family, his friends, his well paying job, his festivals and traditions, his house.... everything that matters!
In 4 days, he will be with me - a malayalee girl with an over enthu family who mean well but butt in a bit too much, a newly acquired job and alot of love! I wonder so many times, will this be enough for him? Being the principled, practical loving man he is, he may have pressured himself into making the decision to move to India and be with me! I sure hope I dint pressure him into it.
I have no particular aim in writing this. Just a place to spill my thoughts I guess....
So many concerns racing through my mind at a pace faster than what I can keep up with!
Will he be patient enough to look for a job he likes?
Will the Indian govt give him his work permit fast enough?
Will he be totally bugged at the concept of the big wedding that has always been my dream?
Wil we be able to adjust to the fact that for the first time we live in the same city and soon in the same house?
Will he love my family the way I love his? With no conditions...
Will his social circle being different from mine be a problem?
Will our fights be out of frustration and tension?
So many many things...
As these thoughts raced through my head, other thoughts raced in parallel...
Our relationship has become so much stronger after our time apart..
We have met each other's family and loved the experience..
We have prayed together about our concerns, our hopes, our dreams..
We have the confidence that our love for each other is unconditional, true and encompassing..
We know that however much we fight, we love each other dearly and nothing takes precedence over that..
We both know that without each other, we feel incomplete..
We also know that we can tell each other anything and not be even remotely judged!

And most of all, thinking about it, I guess he is not leaving ALL that matters to him behind in his home country! I am at the recieving end and I guess that is ALL that matters to him! And I feel relieved! I hope I can make a life with him so that he never has regrets! But that is now my only prayer!!

So if anyone does read this wayward post, do say a silent prayer for us as we embark on a journey that is the end of a looooong wait but a start to a journey of our lives together!